Are there any available men?

Have you seen this movie '' The Wedding Planner'' which is considered to be one of the most loved films starring pop-star Jennifer Lopez?

Mary Fiore (Jennifer Lopez) is a famous wedding planner in San Francisco realizes that she spends so much time organizing other people's romances by way of their weddings, that she doesn't spend time thinking about her own love life. She then falls for a guy named Steve (McConaughey) who is engaged to one of her clients. Long story short, McConaughey falls in love with her and the script goes;

Steve: Do you ever think about that night at the park?

Mary: What?

Steve: I barely know you. I don't know your dad's first name, I don't know if you ever wore braces, or contacts or glasses and I have no idea how you came to be a wedding planner, Mary. But I do know the curves of your face. And I know every fleck of gold in your eyes. I know that the night at the park was the best time I've ever had. Pl-please say something.

Mary: I'm a magnet for unavailable men, and I'm sick of it. It's simple, I love Fran, I respect her, and she loves you. So besides your tux measurements, that's all I need to know. Please go away.

This is where I am at today!!!

Is there a sign or something on my big stupid forehead that says'' “I am a magnet for unavailable men?”

Have you ever found yourself falling for the wrong guys?

Like Monica in F.R.I.E.N.D.S: is there something wrong with me? I mean why am I only

attracted to guys where there's no future? Either they're too old, or they're too young.........

Let me spend some time writing about this subject because I strongly hope that one of you may see what I am talking about and it may help one of you to know that you are not alone.

For God's sake, why do I attract married men? Why do married guys flirt with me? I am not talking about a divorced woman like me who is drawn to married guys. Trust me, I have zero interest in becoming involved with a married man.

I know I am not giving out the wrong and mixed signals. And I am certainly not a person who likes to break a relationship or has intentions of being a home-wrecker. I am definitely not cruel to myself or to anybody else.

Maybe.......

Maybe because I've been searching nonstop for my very own Prince, but I continue to attract frog after frog.

Maybe married men pursue me because they have not divorced yet and they do not know whether they can get a suitable partner and still continue with their lifeless, meaningless marriage as an act of fate.

Maybe because they feel I am easy to get and think I am sending that signal ''I am ready and open''.

Maybe my needs and insecurities are so clear to them to catch feelings.

Maybe I am a strong woman who can do whatever I want to do, afford my needs and stuff, and be whatever. I think this is a huge turn-on for men. The whole adventure of pursuing an independent woman excites them.

Maybe because they need someone to listen to them.

Maybe they feel that I am interested in friendship and then eventually they think they can have me as their ''sidepiece''.

Maybe because I am not paying close enough attention to possible relationship red flags. I cannot run a background check or ask for some documents to know if they are married or single!!

I am literally so tired of wasting my time with men who are not ready or committed or married or just can't have a relationship.

-Mr. Unavialble men, please just GO AWAYYYY!!!

Now let's talk about available men!! What's up with you all? Why can't you love me the way I deserved to be loved?

You don't have to have a strong plan for the future but you can be honest with yourself and decide within a few months if this is a long-term thing or not. Because it's easy for you to move on and start over and for a single mother to stop and start over is especially hard because it is not just emotions and feelings but also a child.

It saddens me to admit that I am finding it hard to believe men are capable of love. I understand we are in a world of no strings attached/ friends with benefits lifestyle but it really hurts my mindset.

I am not expecting a guy to play a father figure role, as I am capable of supporting and being a good father and a mother to my daughter.

Single mothers are not dying for sex. And well, we all know there are tools for that sort of headache if it becomes difficult or hairy.

I understand I am a woman with baggage and I am the least bit ashamed of my age, my divorce, and my child. I am proud to check all three boxes as meaningful pillars in my life.

All I ask is that if you don't want to date me because of any of these suitcases I carry, Stay away!!!!

I don't have time for your B.S.