ummmm despite change being unavoidable and constant, many of us find it difficult to deal with. I don't know people who embrace change tend to be happier. I think learning the tactic to handle the changes we uncover is the secret to happy living.
Some people hate change and I am one of them. It is scary and can be unsetting. It is like you are traveling the road you never traveled before, a kind of lonely feeling. I don't want to let go of what I've known and allow for something new to emerge. Because I spend a lot of energy and work hard to make things the way I want them...to feel SAFE and in control. I hate the fear of the unknown.
The past weeks have been rough with everything going on. People have asked me how
drained, restless, hopeless, irritable, unhappy, anxious feelings surpassing the normal ups and downs of everyday life.
Sometimes we have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to how they used to be. Many of us wish to stop or turn the clock back to the favorite/ugly times of our lives. I do not want to go back and fix all my mistakes because at one time it was exactly what I wanted. Every little detail of my life is what made me into who I am today.
Anyways, I am now going to empty my mind by sharing recent changes in life that I had somewhat forgotten what pure happiness felt like.
My friend Asher: A tender topic!!
The WhatsApp message early in the morning hit like cannon fire from the close range. Last month my friend died. This is probably the hardest sentence I have written and I understand there is no easy way to deal with friendship loss. I am still processing it and to be honest it doesn't feel real. He was one of my best friends who were close to the heart I have ever had. The sort of person and the only person who always made me laugh so hard I almost peed my pants several times.
I would like to think that Asher and I had been friends since before we were born. Anytime I saw him I was just so happy. Well, his smile was infectious, he made anyone he talked to feel like the most important person in the room. He was clever and so good at making anyone in his orbit feel great.
I am finally at a point where I haven't cried about it in the last few days (screw that!! tears again writing this!!) I prided myself on being able to handle whatever life had thrown at me(and it had thrown a lot) but this is something different. This pain and sorrow would not let me be ME, disrupting normalcy, everything reminds me of him, certain songs, movies, his voice recordings, anything and everything set me off. I Miss You ASHER!!
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The boss-the transition:
A good boss is hard to find, difficult to part with, and impossible to forget. I thought I was finally lucky to have a great boss. And so it started, he told me that he was moving to a role of his choice. I can't help but feel abandoned by him, even though I am also happy for him.
It's crazy, really, you are in the moment and flow of things, everything feels so permanent, I know I know it's not, it still feels like it is. Nothing is permanent and things are constantly shifting and changing whether it's the team members in the company or the company's mission, policies, procedures, strategy, or my position. But this change impacts me greatly, I don't know but I feel completely lost in my role.
Maybe I was not prepared for this change. Maybe I pictured working with him for so much longer, it didn't even occur to me that he might go someplace else.
What am I supposed to think...stay calm and Business As Usual???
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In any case, be it physical, career, or relationship, change is inevitable and you can't count on these inevitable things to happen. I think like any habit, we should embrace change.
Let's learn how to ride the rollercoaster of life with our eyes open, let's scream if we need to and if our heart pounds, let's breathe through it, end of the day we are all in this together whether we like it or not CHANGE will happen!!!
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” –Socrates
- don't listen to Socrates becasue you need to fight and leverage the old as well :)
It is a undeniable fact that change is inevitable and almost everyone want changes in life one way or the other and in the most beneficial way possible. Yes, I agree certain changes are unavoidable and cannot be managed and it gives us a nightmare. The memories can't fade and the impact will not reduce but, "This too shall pass".
Change always changes and bring changes to everything and everyone and it is the only thing that cannot be changed from "being a change". As said everything in this world is temporary, but the change is permanent.
Always remember you're braver, stronger, smarter, intelligent, beautiful and loved more than you'd ever imagined. God has blessed with abundance and you have…